The truth is God’s not going to bless us when we’re negative. If we’re bitter, angry and mean, God’s not going to bless us. If we’re not forgiving, God can’t bless us. When we’re negative and not thankful, God’s not going to bless us. If we talk about people in a negative way, God’s not going to bless us. But how can we Smile, Staying Positive When We Have Low Self-Worth and not even positive about yourself?
Smile Staying Positive When I Have Low Self-Worth or Esteem -- sermon video audio notes
Smile Staying Positive When I Have Low Self-Worth or Esteem - sermon video audio notes
Scriptures: Matthew 22:37-39, Numbers 13:33, Judges 6:14-16, Philippians 4:13, Exodus 3:11, Exodus 3:13, Exodus 4:1, Exodus 4:10, Exodus 4:13, Exodus 6:28-7:1, Revelation 5:9-10, Romans 8:30-31
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Smile Staying Positive When I Have Low Self-Worth or Esteem - sermon video
Smile Staying Positive When I Have Low Self-Worth or Esteem - sermon notes
We are taking a look while I’m on vacation at two sermons we taught this past year. Last time we talked about “People You Should Meet and People You Should Miss” from the “Divine Appointments and Connections series. Today, we will talk about Smile Staying Positive When I Have Low Self-Worth from the staying positive series. It was the tenth and final lesson we did in the series. It was the second of a two-part teaching on self-worth.
The truth is God’s not going to bless us when we’re negative. If we’re bitter, angry and mean, God’s not going to bless us. If we’re not forgiving, God can’t bless us. When we’re negative and not thankful, God’s not going to bless us. If we talk about people in a negative way, God’s not going to bless us. But how can we Smile, Staying Positive When We Have Low or no Self-Worth and not even positive about yourself? We can’t. We need to learn to see ourselves as worthy and see ourselves as God sees us -- glorified. The first step is to learn to love ourselves in a healthy way.
Matthew 22:37-39 Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest COMMANDMENT. And the second is LIKE IT: ‘LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.’
It’s a command to have a positive opinion of yourself. If you don’t love yourself in a healthy way, you will never be able to love others the way you should. People who have a difficult time loving others usually struggle with low self-worth. We all have faults and weaknesses. We all have things we wish were different about us, but God didn’t create us to go through life being negative about ourselves. God created you to love yourself.
The opinion you have of yourself is the most valuable and important opinion you have about anyone. How you feel about others begins with how you feel about yourself. If, on the inside, you feel and see yourself as inferior, not talented, small, of no valuable, etc., you will become this, people will see you this way, and it will cost you.
Numbers 13:33 We saw the Nephilim there (the descendants of Anak come from the Nephilim). WE SEEMED LIKE GRASSHOPPERS IN OUR OWN EYES, and we looked the same to them.”
These were ten of the twelve men returning from spying out the Promised Land. Most people struggle with self-worth issues. Nephilim were/are giants possessing our promise land. Notice it wasn’t the giants who said spies were grasshoppers. The spies said, “We seemed like grasshoppers IN OUR OWN EYES…” They conveyed how they felt like grasshoppers to the giants. The giants saw the spies as the spies saw themselves. The way we see ourselves on the inside is how others see us on the outside, and it will cost us.
This “grasshopper thinking” caused the entire generation to die in the wilderness never going to the new level of life God had for them. How you think about yourself on the inside determines the quality of life you live. Only Joshua and Caleb went to the new level. Their thinking was not “grasshopper thinking.” It becomes imperative we have a healthy love and opinion of ourselves if we want to live the best life God has for us.
People go through life feeling disqualified. They had a bad family life, abused somehow. People treated them badly. They’ve made mistakes. Maybe they have a physical difficulty they feel disqualifies them. These become Nephilim -- giants intimidating our self-worth and have the potential to stop us from entering our promise.
In part 1, we talked about Gideon and saw many self-worth issues from his life. But, here’s the one I want us to see again. Gideon gave the Lord all his excuses. Then the Lord said,
Judges 6:14-16 The LORD turned to him and said, “GO IN THE STRENGTH YOU HAVE and save Israel out of Midian’s hand. Am I not sending you?” “But Lord,” Gideon asked, “how can I save Israel? My clan is the weakest in Manasseh, AND I AM THE LEAST IN MY FAMILY.” The LORD answered, “I WILL BE WITH YOU, and you will strike down all the Midianites together.”
The Lord didn’t say “I am with you.” It’s “Go… and I will be with you.” We’ve got to step out and try. Then the Lord will show up and show out, but he can’t show out until you step out. The “going part” is major in overcoming low self-worth.
Philippians 4:13 I CAN DO EVERYTHING through him WHO GIVES ME STRENGTH.
What do you want to do? You have the strength -- ability -- to do it. Here’s the primary point. God would not give you the opportunity to go higher in life if he had not already given you the ability. You already possess the ability to do anything and everything you want.
We see this in Moses. You likely know his story. Moses was born in Egypt during a time of oppression and slavery. Male babies’ lives were aborted by throwing them into the Nile River (Exo 1:22). After birth, Moses’ mother, Jochebed (Exo 6:20), hid him three months (Exo 2:2). Then she placed the baby (unnamed at this point) into a basket. She made the basket waterproof and placed the basket into the Nile River among the reeds along the shore (Exo 2:3) where Pharaoh’s daughter bathed. The baby’s older sister, Miriam, watched as Pharaoh’s daughter found him. Miriam convinced Pharaoh’s daughter to allow a Hebrew woman to nurse the baby who was actually the baby’s mother. After weening, the mother gave the baby back to Pharaoh’s daughter who named him Moses (Exo 2:6-10).
How would this affect a person’s self-worth? They’d have to ask, “Does anyone want me? Momma put me in a basket in a river. Pharaoh daughter found me, gave me away, and then momma gave me back to Pharaoh’s daughter. Where do I belong?” It would be traumatic. There’s another aspect we need to see. Moses had a three-year-older brother (Exo 7:7) named Aaron, but Aaron wasn’t placed in a basket and given away. “Why me?”
When Moses grew older, he saw an Egyptian beating an Israelite. Moses looked both ways and in anger Moses killed the Egyptian then buried him in the sand (Exo 2:12). Often people who struggle with self-worth are angry inside. Anger eventually comes out. Pharaoh learned of the murder. Moses escaped to the desert where he lived around forty years keeping sheep.
One day Moses saw a bush burning, but the fire did not consume the bush. He went to investigate and there had his encounter with God as the angel of the Lord (Christophany) spoke to Moses from the burning bush. The Lord gave Moses the opportunity to go to Pharaoh and bring his people out of Egypt. Here was Moses’ reply.
Exodus 3:11 But Moses said to God, “WHO AM I, that I should go to Pharaoh and bring the Israelites out of Egypt?”
Every person who struggles with self-worth feels the “Who am I?” Remember, God does not give the opportunity to go higher in life if he hasn’t already given the ability. Inside of Moses, as with Gideon and you, was greatness -- valor -- value, resources, an overcomer, wealth of strengths, force, and virtue anointing.
Moses, as did Gideon, as do we, began his long list of excuses why he couldn’t take the opportunity and do what the Lord already gave him the ability to do.
Exodus 3:11 “Who am I, that I should go to Pharaoh and bring the Israelites out of Egypt?”
Exodus 3:13 “Suppose I go …and they ask me, ‘What is his name?’ Then what shall I tell them?”
Exodus 4:1 “What if they do not believe me or listen to me…
Exodus 4:10 “O Lord, I have never been eloquent …I am slow of speech and tongue.”
Exodus 4:13 “O Lord, please send someone else to do it.”
His excuses were his Nephilim attacking his self-worth through intimidation. They could have robbed Moses of his greatness and success. Moses was a genius. Moses was highly educated in Egypt. God already placed inside Moses the ability before he ever gave Moses the opportunity. Greatness was already inside Moses. It’s in you also. Moses could lead God’s people better than anyone. There is something you can do greater and better than anyone you know.
The Lord told Moses to go. His brother Aaron would meet him. The Lord would teach them both what to say and do as they went along (Exo 4:15). What was the Lord saying? I think he was saying “Fake it until you make it.” You step out. Then the Lord will show up and show off. We may not feel confident, but if you act confident confidence will come, and the Lord will be with you.
When I began speaking and ministering, I felt intimidated. Sometimes I still do with big crowds or when I speak other places, but I try not to show it. When it’s my time, I walk to the podium, stand tall, lift my head, take a deep breath, lift my voice, and present myself as if I know what I’m doing. I learned sometimes you got to fake it until you make it. A better way to say it is I’ve learned to “FAITH IT UNTIL I MAKE IT.” I’ve learned everyone successful does. Here’s the bottom line. God would not have given me the opportunity had he not already equipped me to do it. If you simply go, the Lord will help you along the way. If you will “faith it until you make it,” he will teach you. Step out. The Lord will show up and show off.
Moses went to Egypt. He met Aaron, and they told the elders. Everyone was excited until Moses and Aaron confronted Pharaoh, who said no and promptly doubled his demand for bricks and forced the Hebrews to gather their straw to make bricks (Exo 5:1-21). The people turned on Moses rejecting him. Moses went to the Lord and said, “See I told you this was a bad idea. I’ve failed again. Everything is worse.” It seemed Moses failed, but failure is not failure unless you quit.
Exodus 6:28-7:1 Now when the LORD spoke to Moses in Egypt, he said to him, “I am the LORD. Tell Pharaoh king of Egypt everything I tell you.” But Moses said to the LORD, “Since I SPEAK WITH FALTERING LIPS, WHY WOULD PHARAOH LISTEN TO ME?” Then the LORD said to Moses, “See, I HAVE MADE YOU LIKE GOD TO PHARAOH, and your brother Aaron will be your prophet.
God gives us who we need to do what we are made to be. It’s the second time Moses has said something about his ability to speak (Exo 4:10). Some people say Moses stuttered, but most translations say it means he knew he was not a great communicator or a great orator. Whatever it was, it caused Moses serious self-worth issues. Moses said this was his handicap and disability. It caused Moses to feel disqualified. We all have a disability. We all have something. Notice what the Lord said. “Moses, how you talk doesn’t matter. Who I have made you is what matters!”
To what has he made you like God to? You are a child of God. You are in the kingdom of God. Inside you is god-like greatness. You reign on the earth.
(KJV) Revelation 5:9-10 …and HAST REDEEMED US TO GOD by thy blood out of every kindred, and tongue, and people, and nation; And hast MADE US UNTO OUR GOD KINGS AND PRIESTS: and WE SHALL REIGN ON THE EARTH.
You are royalty. Jesus died to give you worth. God expects us to act like who we are. Sir, you are a king. Woman, you are a queen. You are royalty. You are born of God. You are special. We don’t act with arrogance, but we are expected to act with confidence. It’s not you feel you are better than anyone else. But you are definitely not less than anyone else. Present yourself as a king or a queen.
You’ve got to be confident. Hold your head up high. Have energy. Walk with confidence. Speak with confidence. Live with confidence. Here is why. People treat you the way you treat yourself. If you project an “I’m inferior to you,” then people will treat you as inferior. If you go around with your head down not looking people in their eyes when you speak projecting inferiority, this is how they will treat you. If you won’t speak up speaking with confidence, what you are saying subconsciously to them and yourself is I’m not important. Don’t waste your time and breathe on me. I don’t deserve your attention. Realize the way you carry yourself sends out subconscious subliminal messages. You can be a very talented intelligent person. But, if you’re not confident in who you are and who God made you, you send out a message saying, “You don’t need to notice me. I’m unimportant.”
“Professor Mehrabian combined the statistical results of the two studies and came up with the now famous rule that communication is only 7 percent verbal and 93 percent non-verbal. The non-verbal component was made up of body language (55 percent) and tone of voice (38 percent).”
Voice tones, body language, facial expression, posture, how you dress, etc. comprise 93% of your communication. What you say verbally is only 7% of what people “hear” when you speak to them. “Moses, what you say isn’t nearly as important as how you say it.” Present yourself as the king you are. Present yourself as the queen you are. Jesus died to give you worth. You are precious to him.
Moses did go to Pharaoh. If we didn’t know he struggled with self-worth, we would not know it by his actions from this point on. He was bold. He said and did exactly what the Lord told him to do. He was confident and do you know what? We never hear him talk about his disability to communicate or his low self-worth again. Moses became extremely confident. So much so he’d even argue with God and win the argument (Exo 33:12-18). Moses never gave excuses again. He led the people out and became the great leader Moses, not drawn out of the water baby Moses. He tapped into his valor and became great.
The Queen of England is not the most beautiful person in England. She’s not the physically strongest. She’s not the most intelligent person in England. She doesn’t appear to be the most pleasant and fun person in England, but she’s not intimidated by those who are more beautiful, stronger, more intelligent, more personable. Why? She knows who she is. She would say, “I’m not the most beautiful, most intelligent, most personable, but I am the queen.” When you understand who you are, it changes everything.
Romans 8:30-31 And those he predestined, he also called; those he called, he also justified; those he justified, HE ALSO GLORIFIED. What, then, shall we say in response to this? IF GOD IS FOR US, WHO CAN BE AGAINST US?
You are glorious! No Nephelim and no Pharaoh can stop you.
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